Coping After A Suicide

"Just as with physical cancer, the person dying of suicide is taken out of this life against his or her will. 
Death by suicide is the emotional equivalent of cancer, a stroke, or a heart attack. ... 
Death can happen suddenly or it can be the end-product of a long struggle that slowly wears a person down. 
Either way, it’s involuntary." ~ Fr. Ron Rolheiser, OMI


  • When you have just lost someone to suicide it is hard to know where to begin to help yourself both understand suicide and how to heal after a suicide.  Where to Begin After A Suicide

How To Help A Survivor of Suicide

  • When a friend or family member has lost someone to suicide it is difficult to understand what they are going through and how you can help them.  Here is a collection of information on How to Help A Survivor of Suicide

Witnessing or Discovering a Suicide

  • When you witness a suicide or discover a suicide the sights, sounds and smells are hard to get out of your mind.  People often have flashbacks and strong memories about Witnessing or Discovering a Suicide 
  • It is very common for survivors of suicide to feel guilty and to also feel shame from the suicide.  Visit Dealing With Guilt and Shame for ideas how to heal.

Understanding Suicide Notes

  • About 30 - 40% of suicides leave a note behind.  Often they can be hard to read and understand.  For more insight about Understanding Suicide Notes

    How to Talk About a Suicide

    • Here are some tips for survivors and others about the best way and language to help others understand suicide.  How To Talk About Suicide

    Understanding Suicide Grief

    • Grief from a suicide loss is more intense and unique compared to the traditional grief felt from the loss of a loved one.  Here is information about Understanding Suicide Grief

    Suicide and Grief in the Workplace

    Complicated Grief and PTSD After a Suicide

    Grief Support for Specific Relationships

    • How you grieve is dependent on the relationship you had with the deceased.  Spouses, parents, children, friends, coworkers all grieve differently.  Learn more about Grief Support for Specific Relationships

    Helping Children or Teens After a Suicide

    Anniversaries, Holidays and Moving on After a Suicide

    Religion and Suicide

    • There is often a lot of confusion understanding how the various major religions view suicide and the burial of a person who has died by suicide.  Here is information about Religion and Suicide.

    Dealing with the Authorities After a Suicide

    Traumatic Brain Injuries and Suicide

    Newsletters From Other Support Groups and Sites

      • The Relationship Between Bullying and Suicide: What We Know and What it Means for Schools
        • Resource: 10 page PDF
        • Summary: In the past decade, headlines reporting the tragic stories of a young person’s suicide death linked in some way to bullying (physical, verbal, or online) have become regrettably common. There is so much pain and suffering associated with each of these events, affecting individuals, families, communities and our society as a whole and resulting in an increasing national outcry to “do something” about the problem of bullying and suicide. 

      • It Just Happened
        • Resource: Webpage
        • Summary: If you've recently learned that someone you care about has taken their own life you are probably feeling shocked and wondering how this could have happened. It's important for you to know that there are people who understand what you are going through right now and that you do not need to go through this on your own. This page has information about where to go for practical, immediate help and also offers some things to consider in the weeks and months ahead.
      • New Jersey Self-Help Group Clearinghouse
        • Resource: Website
        • Resource: 1-800-367-6274
        • Summary: There are many hundreds of additional local community, online & National Support Groups available to those in need.  They include a broad range of other stressful life situations that include most illnesses, bereavement situations, disabilities, divorce, parenting problems, family issues, other trauma experiences, job clubs, and many other life transitions and adversities.
      • Suicide Contagion & Suicide Clusters
        • Resource: 5 page PDF
        • Summary: It has long been believed that when suicidal contagion occurs, a suicide cluster can develop. A cluster, in this case, is defined as multiple suicidal behaviours or suicides that fall within an accelerated time frame, and sometimes within a defined geographical area. Studies have shown that adolescents are the ones most affected
      • Here's a Quick and Simple Way To Receive Signs From Your Loved One...
        • Resource: Blog Post
        • Summary: Are you one of the many grieving people who want to receive signs from your deceased loved ones? If you are reading this, most likely you are. And, most bereaved people I speak with do...
      • Your Life After Their Death: A Medium's Guide to Healing After a Loss
        • Resource: Website and Audio
        • Summary: In Your Life After Their Death, psychic medium Karen Noé shows you how to move on and enjoy life again after you’ve lost a loved one. As she often states, “Your deceased loved ones are okay and want you to be okay, too!”
      • Relaxing 3 Hour Video of Tropical Beach with Blue Sky White Sand and Palm Tree
      • Free Guided Meditations
        • Resource: 8 Audio Files
        • Summary: For an introduction to mindfulness meditation that you can practice on your own, turn on your speakers and click on the "Play" button.